Regrets are often very strange things indeed. They represent moments in our lives where we had complete control of a situation but somehow ended up or feel as though we ended up on the losing side. Moments that when you think back about them make you wonder “if only I knew then what I know now” or “if only I had a second chance” or more agonizingly “if only I had waited a little bit longer”.
There are a lot of things that people tend to regret. Decisions, actions, words that were said and words that weren’t but ultimately regrets have one thing common about them, a haunting feel. In the sense that no matter how much time elapses from a particular situation the feeling of regret does not seem to diminish much. And in my opinion that’s the blessing in disguise with regrets, it’s like your brain is subconsciously telling or reminding you “you better not eff up again”.
But when you think about it really, there is no real winning in this game of life. Take for example people who choose to focus on their future by sacrificing their present time working, studying etc. These people often live to regret not spending more time with their parents, not traveling when they had the freedom/energy/youthfulness to, and not doing the things they love or are good at etc.
And now you have the opposite of that spectrum, where you have people that live for the present moment, enjoying life and not worrying too much about future endeavors. Many a time these people live to regret not making better use of their present time or not focusing on building some sort of platform for their future. Of course these are very individual things but the point is that we all will live to regret certain things about our lives. It also doesn’t necessarily have to be something you did, it could be that you regret your lack of action or response to something.
Long story short, regrets happen and they will keep happening, they are just part of life. The only thing you can do really is hope that you don’t end up having to regret the same things over again.
In conclusion, life as a whole is a learning experience and these regrets are bookmarks sort of speak in your own story book. And although you may not live to regret every decision you make, these experiences (of regret) will affect how you look at things in the future. And the irony in all of this is by the time you do experience enough of life to say that nothing surprises you, time would’ve long passed.
No real winning like I said.
God bless 🙂